Problematic Faves: Dealing with It

Hey booknerds! I’m back with the 2nd and last part of Problematic Faves and How To Deal With It. It’s my participation for the blogging event called Crit Your Faves by the amazing Aentee @ ReadAtMidnight. You can find the first part of my discussion here.

It’s really hard hearing for the first time that your favorite book of all time is called a “problematic fave”. I’ve been there, we’ve all been there and we’re all just denying it. I for one, heard my closest friend say that my favorite book is “wrong” and “why is this your favorite book? WHY?!” Yes folks, those very words indeed. And up until now I cannot, for the life of me, accept what she said. IT REALLY STRUCK A NERVE, but I needed to be mature and thus, I had to let it pass.  (Don’t worry. We’re still friends, we just don’t talk about it.) It hurt so much that I thought to myself, there must be something out in the internet to help me relieve the pain. Sadly, no luck. I don’t want that to happen to you guys and now is my chance to write something down so that when it does happen to other people, they can find something on the internet.

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I made up 5 simple (okay, maybe not that simple) ways to deal with the fact that your book is a Problematic Fave. Ta-da!

STEP ONE: Have someone break the glass.

I know we are all inside our very own protective bubble with our beloved books. We don’t want anything that would burst that. But what if someone did? Is it really that sort of catastrophe? Have we never thought for once that this would be good for us? I think it is. We are blinded by our love that we don’t really see the bigger picture. My closest friend did that and because of her violent reaction, I had no choice but to reread my favorite book (which was Maybe Someday by Colleen Hoover). And lo and behold, she was right.

Maybe it’s healthy that someone breaks the glass from time to time. It obviously gives you a different perspective, it helps you grow as a better reader plus there’s no joy in fighting over WHY your book is your FAVORITE (and you know, getting your friends to the dark side).

STEP TWO: Vent out. 

Find discussion pages where people (bookworms, booknerds, bookdragons, etc. YOU NAME IT) talk about their passion. This is the time where you engage in well-read conversations, get their opinions as you widen your perspective on things. Arguments with fellow  book enthusiasts about relevant societal issues are healthy; not only do you get to argue with them on an “intellectual” level with bookish references thrown in the mix but you get to discover great books as recommendations as well!

Finding someone who agrees with your perception on things is such a thrill. Learning that you have the same “feels” and opinions on certain matters can help you interact with a lot of people. This is a perfect  opportunity for you to inspire others as well.

STEP THREE: Do a little research.

Think of it as a background check and investigation. Scouring the internet about your favorite book, discovering a thing or two about the author or even read criticisms about it. Try listing down your queries: What made the author write the book? Was the plot based on personal experience? Why did the author limit the diversity of characters? These are only a few of the thousand questions you could think of.

Research work doesn’t only enhance your abilities as a writer but it also enhances your critical thinking as a reader. You learn how to analyze the elements of fiction in a deeper and wider lens.

STEP FOUR: Read DIVERSELY.

This is definitely a must. It is vital and I do mean vital that a reader like you (and me) widen the selection. I’m not saying that you should abandon your love for Young Adult books or High Fantasy novels but I only suggest that you dwell into other selections such as Poetry, Historical Fiction, Non-Fiction literary works like Biographies and Diaries (Anne Frank is an example) or even read the competing novel of your favorite book! The more we read diversely, the more we get a grip of the whole concept of a literary work.

Read for means and for feels. It’s significant that whilst your mind is being fed, your heart is in what you’re reading. Plus, this is the best way to cure a book hangover.

STEP FIVE: ACCEPTANCE is the KEY.

Yes I know it’s so cliché but it’s true. All we have to do  is just accept and move on with our lives. So what if it’s flawed and so what if you still love this problematic book? It wont make you stop reading right? Maybe next time we should be more observant readers and learn from our mistakes; what’s important is we learn from them. (Wow this sounds like advice for someone who just went through a bad breakup.)

It easier said than done. Just don’t forget that this little hurdle wont stop you from reading books. Remember, one lifetime isn’t enough for all the books in the world, so why stay with just one?

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There you have it! As I have said in my earlier rambles about this specific blog topic, I am no expert and what I’ve written down are just based on my personal experience that I think would help my fellow bibliophiles.  If you find anything I have said in no way helpful at all, do comment them down and I’ll take it as constructive criticism. But if you do find it even a teeny bit interesting, it fills my heart with joy for you to think so!

If you wanna read more topics about this blogging event called Crit Your Faves being discussed by other talented bloggers in the blogosphere, you can find them here. Make sure to send them your thoughts as well.

It has been great joining this blogging event and I’m looking forward for more of these great opportunities. Being new to this blogging thing, joining Aentee’s event was such a blast! See you at my next discussion!

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